Sometimes I have a hard time taking to work problems from home and taking home problems from work. Worse yet, taking problems in my social circle into both realms!! I may not share one with the other but chaos in one always tends to flow over into chaos from the other. Emotionally I am affected. If I've had a bad day at home, I tend to seclude myself off at work and not want to deal with anyone. I am not my "happy, perky self" according to colleagues. At home I begin to bark at family.
So what do I do? Unfortunately there is no happy answer. The timer rule doesn't work it you are holding on to things. How do you transition from one area of your life to the other without carrying forward all the chaos from the one you just came from? I guess if I had all the answers to those types of questions then I could retire, write a book and make a ton of money.
Today I am going to be working on learning how now to not wear my emotions on my sleeve. I am going to work on separating out these various parts of my life. Not only will this task affect me, but it should affect positively others in my life from each of the areas.
It was some years ago, but I remember a time when my problems from home and the problems at work were beginning to feel overwhelming. One person who seemed to have some answers for me was Bob Browne, so I told him about these concerns. His answer was, "Well, it's not the end of the world". Of course that was not what I wanted to hear at that time. It was not the answer to all of this. How stupid is that?
ReplyDeleteBut after thinking about what he had said, I began to work with it not being the end of the world. If it was the end of the world, then that means that the world would be revolving around me. How stupid is that? In realizing the truth in what Bob said, is what did get me through all these tough situations. If something didn't go right, I would move on. You can't go back. Once the water goes under the bridge, you can't make it go back upstream. The best thing that a person can do is paddle downstream in unison with the current.
In my last sentence above, I used the word "best". I think it should have been "easiest" instead.
ReplyDeleteThe easiest thing that a person can do, is paddle with the current. But there are times when you need to paddle across the current, maybe to get to the other side. The hardest thing to do, is to paddle directly upstream, against all flowing water. Sometimes we must do that, even if it is just to see what comes of it.
Our lives may go from one side to the other, or even opposite what is easiest. But the water is always passing under the bridge to never come back. So it is with all of our past life. It's done, over, and can't be changed. Instead of running downstream with a bucket to haul water back upstream, it makes some sense to let it go, and work on the things that are happening right now and in our futures where we can make a difference.
Whenever you’re anxious, in pain, or even mildly upset over the conduct of others, take the focus off those you’re holding responsible for your inner distress. Tell yourself that no one has the power to make you uneasy without your consent and that you’re unwilling to grant that authority to this person right now. It’s important to bypass blame and even your desire to understand the other person; instead, focus on understanding yourself. Change the way you choose to perceive the power that others have over you and you will see a bright new world of unlimited potential for yourself. Came from a book I am focusing on recently to make changes in myself as well.
ReplyDeleteWow, that was really good Dawn. For a moment I thought that you were coming up with those words of wisdom. Although I know that you did put it into your own words, there is still a lot of wisdom in that paragraph.
ReplyDeleteWell done.