Yes...today I am already looking ahead to the day. Today I know that I am going to have to deal with one or two annoying people. (I won't say in what capacity I will have to deal with them out of respect and privacy for them.) Just thinking about it is already making my skin crawl. When I think about it, I start to feel that blood vessel in my head start to pulse, my breathing changes, and I envision grabbing the person by the shoulders and shaking them and saying, "shut up...you are so freakin annoying!"
Why is it that these people bother me? What about it makes every emotion in me go on edge? Is it that I find myself in thse type of people? Oh, God...I hope not! Is it that I can't control them? Nope...not that either. Is it that they are blind to what everyone else sees going on around them? Yeah....probably. Whatever it is, it is annoying.
Today I am going to work on being a little more understanding and controling the desire to slap the person silly or lock them in a room with Forest Gump repeating off all the types of Shrimp there are! Today I am going to begin working on communicating with these individuals better and being honest with them...although in a nice way. Today I will take a deep breathe and count to 10 and then start speaking when these things happen.
I am sure that some of you can imagine someone like the above described people. How do you handle annoying people? What tools can you share with me?
Nope, I don't know anyone like that. Actually, I do run into those people now and then. I guess the best advice is what I try to do, and that is to evade them. Avoid them like the plague. There was a very annoying person inside of a building tonight that I had to enter. There was only her and her husband. To avoid her, I stood outside for about 10 minutes until some other people showed up and went in first. Then, I just made my discreet entrance. Yep, she had somebody else cornered as usual.
ReplyDeleteAvoidance is my first line of defense. What I know that really works, if you can bring yourself to do it, is to smother them with kindness. Yep, be obnoxiously sweet to them. Now this won't work with my mother, but for anyone else, it usually stops them in their tracks. It wasn't what they expected. It's kind of like when someone honks their horn at you and gives you the middle finger when driving the streets. You know that you didn't do anything, so all you want to do is stick out that middle finger back. Well, for me the only step after that is to get out and go at it. And that is not a good thing at all. So what I try to get myself to do is instead of raising that right arm and extending that middle finger, I wave back at them and smile. If I happen to have my window down, I say, "Hi, how's your mom?" They will be wondering for the next hour who the heck was that?
Avoid, avoid and did I say avoid when possible. If that doesn't work, walk away. If that doesn't work, look them in the face and say "Do you know how annoying you are?" I have had to do that on occasion. My face might turn a little red but the outcome is my blood presure is normal shortly following the confrontation. People who annoy me usually know they do and take my hints. It takes practice my dear. You can practice on me. David said he will back me up on that.
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