In the past I have written about not letting people walk all over me. As I have worked on this topic I have been reminded how important it is that once I have more confidence in myself and stop letting people walk all over me that I must start taking charge. But not only is the "taking charge" task a part of places like work and home, but taking charge also involves me taking charge with my self.
Sometimes it seems that I have a second person inside of me. You know...the person who wimps out on anything. The person who tries to be a voice of reason. The person who introverts around people. Part of this journey is trying to get those two people...the me I have been and the me I want to be...in balance. The yin and the yang.
In obtaining balance it requires sometimes doing things that I haven't been comfortable doing before. (Yeah...that darn fear thing...) In order to make my taking charge be effective with others, I must first be able to do it to myself. If I am able to be wishy washy with myself and back off or question myself, how will I be able to take charge outside of myself with others? This is something I need to work with. If I can't take charge with others at time and continue to be wishy washy on my decisions with others, how will I obtain credibility? I have to stand my ground. I may be wrong, but so what? Isn't everyone wrong sometimes? I have to remember that my opinion is my opinion and I have a right to that.
Stand my ground today...take charge. It's about time I finally do that.
I really think that the word, "balance", is the key to life. Seriously, the yin and the yang, or balance of your body, means that you have a healthy body, (Chinese medicine). It's okay to drink, smoke, eat, swear, get mad, scream, etc. But that should only be done in moderation, thus, the balance. Everything in life is most effective when in balance. The positive and the negative, the + and the -, the man, and the woman, and so on.
ReplyDeleteSo that's it. We all need to go boldly where no one has gone before, but we also need to first say, "What if?" That is not being too wishy washy. That is simply using some common sense. I would rather hesitate for a moment of thought, than to stand by my final answer no matter what.