Today's topic is trust, and most specifically to trust yourself. Before we can learn to trust others we must first trust ourselves. If we "know" that we are going to fail at something but we try to do it anyways, we tend to fail, right? However, if you trust yourself and believe that you can do it, you are less likely to fail. While that sounds more like believing in yourself, trusting yourself really goes hand in hand. It's like a diet. I know that if I look at starting a diet and believe that I am likely to fail it, I can't trust myself around foods and other things that could impede my improvement in that area.
Trusting yourself involves going with your gut instinct though also. Normally, I hate spending money on something full price...and it's even harder when I know its something I need. Today my husband and I are going shopping (yeah for President's Day being a Federal holiday!) One of the hard things we need to look for is a new dining room table and chairs. I hate spending money and when it comes to big items like that, I tend not to trust my instincts. Today, I vow to do that. I vow to trust my instincts.
So, why don't I trust my instincts? Because I am afraid. I am afraid of choosing wrongly. I am afraid of making a mistake. What we need to learn today most of all though is that we need be willing to make mistakes but not let that affect our trusting in ourselves. Trusting in ourselves affects our confidence and our belief in ourselves.
It's funny how topics over the last 22 days start to sound as though they repeat themselves or that they flow into each other. I guess, as part of the journey, I am seeing that they need to do this. If each of these topics is to make a better me, then they have to come together and link together. Wow...I need a day off more often. My brain actually starts to work...or maybe its because I am becoming that new me. Only 343 more days to go!
Remember...trust your instincts today. Enjoy your day.
I can't tell you just how much that you remind me of Dawn and I trying to find a car a few weeks ago. Man, that was scary, afraid to make a really big mistake. I didn't trust myself to make the right decision.
ReplyDeleteHey man...You wanna no jus how much Ya can TRUST!!! You better get out of my...
ReplyDeleteSorry. I think that I'm on the wrong blog. I thought this was my WWE site.
This is definately not a WWE blog.
ReplyDeleteTrusting others is a very difficult one and it doesn't take abuse to feel this way. I had a few encounters with guys in my dating years. 2 of them just wanted a piece and didn't care about me. I said no many times and yet they carried on. Finally both incidences stopped but left a mark on me. When I met Cully I had a hard time letting him in. When he told me he loved me for the first time, I looked out the car window (not even at him) and paused for a minute or so and then told him, I'm sorry I can't say that yet. I don't know what I feel and I am afraid if I take that next step I will get hurt. I explained to him what had happened to me when I was younger and he understood. He said to me, "no, problem, I understand. You say it when you are ready. It doesn't make me feel any lesser about you." (What a great guy!) I also was dealing with the voices in my head that started to believe all the teasing I got from everyone (from family & people everywhere)that I was fat and ugly and no one would ever want me. I was too afraid to let go and become vulnerable.
ReplyDeleteHurt comes in many ways. I had this good friend in High School. We did a lot together. The day I got my drivers license she called me and was in a odd mood. I asked to go see her for awhile and luckily I got to go. We took a walk along a very busy road and at one point she jumped out in front of a car. I was able to grab her quickly and keep her from hurting herself (which is what she was trying to do). We cried for awhile and talked and thought that this deepened our bond and made us closer friends. Well about a year later she thought I did something that I didn't have anything to do with and she wouldn't speak to me again. I have ran into her a few times as an adult and she still won't acknowledge me.
I have no real good advice but I do believe God puts people in our lives for a reason and sometimes we have to be vulnerable to God!
I have to answer Michelle's post. Your experience is typical of what I can't stand about sexual predators. Most of the women in my life, friends and family, have had at least one situation of abuse. And I consider a sexual advance in the back seat of a car or whatever, where only a "piece of tail" is wanted, is sexual abuse, or at least borderline. If you say "No", then that should be it, or the line has been crossed.
ReplyDeleteIn my younger high schooly days, it was in my head that if you were to take a girl out, you had to at least try to get in her pants. I thought that if you didn't do that, you might not be considered normal. Of course, I tried to follow through with that. But my worst fears were if she should say okay. Then what would I do? So as soon as I got the "I'm not that kind of girl", I said "Oh, sorry", and breathed a sigh of relief.
But why is it that guys are the predators? They ruin it for the good guys. We must pick up their abused pieces. We can't say "I love you" to a woman, without her being suspicious. That has happened to me quite enough. That's why I say, "Watch the young ones". You must be their overseer, and make sure that they are safe. You just can't trust anybody today.